Am I Growing Up? - Deborah Donaldson
growing up

Am I finally growing up and maturing??

Am I in the flow?

One would think that after 56 years that these would not be questions that I would be asking.  To be clear I do not equate growing up with being staid and stuffy but with having the maturity to handle what life throws at you with grace.maturity-is-not-measured-by-age

I was at an appointment today and I received a number of compliments.  My previous habit was to make some self-deprecating responses, make a joke about what was said or even put myself down.

Mostly this was done because I was uncomfortable receiving compliments.  Some of this is due to the way that I was raised.  Above all, you did not want people to think that you were “full of yourself”.  I have been uncomfortable showing confidence because I did not want it to be misconstrued as being cocky. It has always been so much easier for me to give a compliment than to receive one.

Well, I am happy to report that today after I received my compliments I just said, Thank You!  I did not add any additional off the cuff responses or make light of what was said.  Reading the Law of Giving is starting to rub off on my subconscious.

I did not even realize what I had done until after the appointment was over and I was reflecting how things went.  Sometimes change comes in baby steps, I may not realize how much I have actually changed until I take the time to reflect back to how I was.  Sometimes the amount of change needed is very small, just a tweak, to make a huge difference in the outcome.

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edina December 6, 2016

I can remember feeling uncomfortable with praise or compliments. This is a huge breakthrough, Debbie. Simply saying Thank you to a compliment is the most gracious way to receive the compliment and it gives gratitude back to the complimenter.

Thomas December 4, 2016

Hi Debbie, I can totally relate to what you’re saying. Day to day it doesn’t seem like much is changing but then all of a sudden I notice exactly the same thing: that I’ve actually improved without even noticing it. Isn’t it a wonderful feeling!? Thanks for bringing it out so clearly!

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